Approach Anxiety

Hey guys!! Well as all of you know, the most popular topic among pick up artists and people getting into the game of getting girls is “approach anxiety!!! Yeah approach anxiety is something that EVERYBODY has or everybody has had at least once, so don’t feel bad if you have it because here I have some tips that can help you overcome it.

Talking to strangers could be difficult at the beginning of your journey. Approaching lots of people and talking to them about yourself or about them is sometimes hard for people, and you know when you’re getting into the game and you want to meet lots of girls, everybody tells you to go out and talk to girls, get to know them and have fun. After getting to know lots of girls everybody says that you’re going to be good?????

Well that is true. But, is it just fun at the beginning???? Of course NOT. Talking to strangers for me it was more like nervousness and lots of anxiety, also thinking lots of things and ways of screwing it out, and thinking about what other people would think about me. That doesn’t seem like lots of fun… so I started my research to try to forget about that anxiety and learn how to control it.

I found that there are many ways to overcome approach anxiety. Of course there are some hard ways like learning all the routines and openers that are out there, read tons of books and memorize lines and go out and use them. So this will give you the confidence and will help you with your problem. Fortunately After I did all that I found one simple technique that really helped me and could help you to become better with women and also get away you approach anxiety for further times, WITHOUT all the research.

First of all let’s talk about how the “other” ways work.

No matter what anybody says... Every pick up artist out there has used or still uses routines once in a while. All of us started like that and in my personal opinion while I was starting with the game I LOVED to use routines. I love them because you know what reaction expect, also that you don’t have to think on anything else to say because you have already memorized some story that you are going to use. The hard party was that I had to read a LOT and memorize stuff and know what to expect when I got my answer... I Memorized a set of steps like “opening, neg, routine, DHV, neg, routine, neg, DHV, Close”, that model really worked for me, and it was lots or work trying to be “somebody else” and not having fun doing it.

After a while I realize that, as everybody says, that is not the routine that works, is the confidence that you have when you use it. To be honest now I think that doesn’t matter what you say to a girl. What matters is HOW you say it. At that time the routines were working and my anxiety was going away, I thought it was really because of the routines but I didn’t know that was because I used the routines with lots of confidence (because I knew that they will work).

Approach anxiety disappears when you practice, so you will have to go out and practice. Fortunately for you, I read lots of pick up artist books and learned lots of openers so I can tell you that there is a better way to do it where you don’t have to memorize lots of stuff.

Acting. Yes Acting!! The idea came up to me when one day I was thinking how could I overcome my approach anxiety and talk to girls until I get used to it and do it naturally??? Well what am I good at?? (I thought to myself) .. Then after a few minutes of thinking, my solution came up!!! I’M REALLY GOOD AT ACTING. Yeah! I can be whoever I want on stage so I will do it on the night club!!

Every day that I went out I played the role of “the pick up artist” where I spoke to girls, and tell them stories and try to have fun with them. If I didn’t like them I left and started over with another girl. Some days I played the role of the exchange student who was out of town and tried to find anybody who can show him around in town. Another days, I played the role of the millionaire player who was out there just to have fun. When I just wanted sex, I played the role of the guy who is in love of his fiancé and wants to have a last night of fun with all his buddies. All of them worked and I mean who cares??? The point of this is just to have a great time and meet tons of women right???

After a while of using my “acting skills” I found out that I wasn’t afraid to talking to strangers anymore and that I could just be myself and have fun at the same time. Acting really gave me the confidence to start conversations without taking in consideration what other people think of me. And with confidence I can do whatever. The secret to overcome approach anxiety is to DON’T give a fuck about what other people think of you and acting gave me the confidence to do it.

I really recommend you this method if you are starting into the game and you want to overcome approach anxiety once for all!! Do it, DON’T spend hours reading pick up books on your computer, go out and speak to people, meet new people and have fun doing it.